VOLUNTAD Y DESEO

Our reality moves by the action of two very different forces, one of them follows the order of logic and time, the other the rules of the unconscious.

Desire moves us from the depths of our guts, driven by biology and natural selection. The desire is irrational, urgent, imperative. It appears in an animal and instinctive way when what is at stake is the survival of the person or the species. It is imposed tyrannically and subdues us when we fall in love or have some kind of dependency. It is expressed in the form of uncontrollable attraction, irrational aversion, impulsiveness and excess. Desire leads us to lay down our lives for others, to end others' or our own.

Freud spoke of Eros and Thanatos as the forces of life and death, creation and destruction, the beginning and the end of things. For the Hindus Brahma is the deity of creation and responsible for each new cycle and Shiva is the wild god who destroys the universe at the end of the world.

Desire pushes us to action, pushes us out of our comfort zone, fills us with energy, security and decision, motivates us to make the impossible possible. Desire makes everything seem easy, it drags us in a compulsive and hypnotic way, it is seductive and does not give up, it leads us to abandonment, the renunciation of ourselves and it degrades our self-esteem. Desire is force and action, it does not need reasons or arguments, it is not logical or reflective. Seek your satisfaction at any price, regardless of the consequences and as quickly as possible. Badly tolerates being told no or having to wait.

All addictions to substances such as alcohol, drugs or certain medications, to activities such as gambling, compulsive shopping or sex, or to people, are the result of an uncontrolled desire. And letting yourself be carried away by the law of desire can spell a bitter and destructive end.

The other force that builds our destiny is the will. The will is not born spontaneously, it must be cultivated, trained and worked on. It takes effort, perseverance and discipline. It is a strong tree with deep roots when we have developed it, but it begins as a small seed that must be cared for to grow. Athletes train willingly, sweat their shirts, get tired and exceed their own records. The will is what allows the advancement of science, with which long-term projects are achieved, a novel is written or savings are made and a heritage is created.

The will is supported by conscience, logic and planning. She is patient, committed, persistent and is not afraid of frustration. You know that mistakes are only the necessary steps to achieve solid results. He understands effort, endurance, and overcoming as a challenge and knows that long-term satisfaction produces sweeter pleasure. Most likely, everything that you are proud of in your life you have built with your will. The will is the resource of the adult, it is not the easy way of the child, but it is the best way.

Only with will you can overcome addictions, failures and crises, get out of certain diseases, change life habits, achieve a professional career, form a stable family and build a future.

Constantly, whether you are conscious or not, you are going to have to choose between will and desire, between the freedom that consciousness and discipline give you and the slavery of your own addictions, needs and abandonments, between immediate satisfaction or consolidated happiness. , between the easy and the effort.